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At each other's throats [Apr. 17th, 2008|11:26 pm]
This might be your mother's feminism

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[ailbhe]
I really hate the mothers-against-mothers stuff. I have particular aspects of it I particularly hate, chief among them the idea that mothers who have other jobs / do not have other jobs are not proper mothers / not proper workers. I use the phrases "part-time mother" and "doesn't work" when I'm talking about this.

And today I hurt a mother who wasn't familiar with my heavily sarcastic use of the phrases. She knows me well enough to be able to work out that I don't actually think mothers who have other jobs are bad mothers, or part-time mothers, but the issue is so nasty that the phrase made her wince.

How can mothers express their own opinions to each other without it being an automatic attack? So much of the language is so loaded. I quite see that sarcasm doesn't help, but I get so ANGRY.

Grr.
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[User Picture]From: ailbhe
2008-04-23 08:53 pm (UTC)
I do say "unpaid" sometimes, and there's "employed."

"Full-time mother" is only what I call myself when people say "Oh, you don't work, then?
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[User Picture]From: merryhouse
2008-04-26 09:06 pm (UTC)
"employed" sounds ok till you combine it to give "employed mother" which has the same problem as "salaried mother". And neither includes all those people who work freelance or for themselves.
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